A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do
~ Bob Dylan
Born Robert Allen Zimmerman May 24, 1941, Duluth, Minnesota, United States
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Conversation on Facebook with my friend Jacket Backman.
It is amazing what you find out about people through Social Networking
Arthur Partridge seems I’ll be meeting that goal date!! Book design complete, uploading files now. And for all of you curious to hear more here’s the copy from the back of the book:
“8 years ago I died. I was home when it happened, recovering from a fairly standard medical procedure, one that had gone very wrong.
From the onset of the massive bleeding, to making my own 911 call, I share my horrifying and bloody wait for the paramedics to arrive and what it was like leaving my young sons behind while I made the trip to the hospital. Learn how I lost my battle with consciousness and emerged into the most outstanding, magnificently, unconditionally loving experience of my life.Journey with me as I share with you a place far beyond your imagination. I take you each step of the way all the while so acutely aware of my connection with our source. I share with you some of the insights and understanding I gained about our human condition and our purpose beyond.
And finally I describe my experience of being given the option of whether I will return to my body or remain in the afterlife, because even in dying it seems, we still have choices to make…”
I’m doing a book launch August 2nd in Malta and getting all the pieces together to make it happen on time has been character building… I’m close, very, very close.
What stories can you tell of great people you meet on line?
I haven’t blogged for an age and then I came across this.
It was a thing that was doing the rounds in Facebook in 2009. If nothing else it starts conversations and gets us sociable.
Try it for yourself.
Rules:
Once you’ve been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you.
If I tagged you, it’s because I want to know more about you.
(To do this, go to “notes” under tabs on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 25 random things, tag 25 people, in the right hand corner of the apps then click publish).
1. My kids ARE Special (and I’m one of them) and so is my “Luvly Woyf”!
2. I was born at a VERY early age and that was last week, sometime.
3. I am half left (or else I would fall over) and always right
4. I am a Graduate of Landmark Education’s Curriculum for Living, which includes the excellent “Landmark Forum” and I get that there is no meaning to life – It just is!
5. My friend, Michael Turner, once said to me that “an indication of the head is as efficacious as a deflection of the eyelid, particularly to an equine of diminished optical reflex” and I have never forgotten it – and it’s true; it really is!
6. Harry Seacombe said that “little do they know how little I know and if they know the little I know, then they would know a little”. I never let on how much I know.
7. I live into Courage, Love and Vitality. If 1 ingredient is missing from my day, it just aint good.
8. When questioned about why I believe something I am reminded of Jack Nicholson, in ‘As Good As It Gets’, when he said, “Is there any other way?” – seems logical to me. If you made your mind up, why question it. Just remake it when you’re ready.
9. I don’t do sympathy but I do DO Compassion big time.
10. I used to be an Athlete – now I’m Fit, Fat and Fifty (something) and still an athlete (in my mind).
11. My favourite band is The Doobie Brothers
12. Ian Dury sang “There ain’t alf some clever Bastards” and he was right – everybody on this planet is exceptionally clever if we just love them for what THEY are.
13. I’m with Neale Donald Walshe . The Church(es) ,the Government(s) have had their go at running (ruling) this planet and so has money (guess who’s in recess now). It is time for people to be ruled by spirit – so people let’s go get inspired! In the meantime, business needs to move away from getting top dollar towards getting a fair dollar for what it does. The answer is in the Communities that we can build. So let’s build with inspiration!!!!!
14. My favourite colour is Blue and I rarely am.
15. IFULP is something that is really really really important! When you **** up, celebrate your humanity. “I ****** up, let’s party!” (non stop)
16. I rarely vote in elections but people and things that inspire me will always have my vote!
17. I worked for 33 years for British American Tobacco (probably the 3 most hated words in the world) and retired at 50. I am profoundly privileged to have worked with the people that I did and to have learned what I did from them.
18. I was a Basketball Referee for 20 years and the same thing goes ….. Good Job! Way to go!
19. In 1979, I played a game called “Great God Number 1”, on a management in action course run by Brathay Training Opportunies. I have never forgotten the games we played and in particular Great God #1! Ask me – I live my life that way.
20. John La Valle is awesome! (and Steve Milton E. Crabb always puts me in a trance… “That’s right! Right is right and Left is left … and ….sometimes right is left and left is ….. right. Right?)
21. “The point of power is always in the present. You are never stuck” said Louise L Hays on page 36 of “You can heal your life”. I concur! You AIN’T!!!
22. Richard Bandler, Michael Neill, Gill Fronsdal, Esther and Jerry Hicks,Keith Cunningham, Eckhart Tolle and the Dalai Lama get my vote. If nothing else, the D.L. gets my vote for his continual laughter and happiness. (Do you wish you had a job where you could giggle all day?)
23. Life is about Paradox management and I am that manager. Remember, if you couldn’t take a joke, you shouldn’t have joined.
24. 25 things is not enough!
25. Can I go outside and play yet?
I was interested to read articles on the BBC News website, Yahoo, and watch a BBC TV News story about diminishing Integrity, in the UK.
The Essex Centre for the Study of Integrity, at Essex University, have carried out a research and there is a PDF, available for download from their web site There is also an…
For those of you practicing NLP and enjoying, I want to offer you an interesting, effective way of removing the basis for your client 'having a problem'. Just in case you are 'having the thought', this might be something mysteriously magical then stop! I haven't started to explain to you the basis for people formulating the very idea of a problem and above the idea of 'having it'.
A married couple was in a terrible accident where the woman’s face was severely burned. The doctor told the husband that they couldn’t graft any skin from her body because she was too skinny. So the husband offered to donate some of his own skin. However, the only skin on his body that the doctor felt was suitable would have to come from his buttocks.
The husband and wife agreed that they would tell no one about where the skin came from, and requested that the doctor also honour their secret. After all, this was a very delicate matter.
After the surgery was completed, everyone was astounded at the woman’s new beauty. She looked more beautiful than she ever had before! All her friends and relatives just went on and on about her youthful beauty!
One day, she was alone with her husband, and she was overcome with emotion at his sacrifice.
She said, “Dear, I just want to thank you for everything you did for me. There is no way I could ever repay you.”
“My darling”, he replied, “think nothing of it. I get all the thanks I need every time I see your mother kiss you on the cheek.”
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Be(-say-do-)have Yourself!
If you are (Being) different, chances are you will Say something different that will have you Do something different so that you can Have something different.
I am delighted that John La Valle has allowed me to post the article below from his monthly newsletter for ‘The Society of Neuro Linguistic Programming’ Practitioners and Trainers’.
John is the President of the society of NLP
It fascinates me how people are steered and even stuck, by the words they use in grammatical structures that they, themselves, chose!
Their own language gets in their way!
structured to impede – structured for failure
When coaching, I aim to move the client’s reasoning out of the way.
I indirectly challenge the accuracy of their memories,
increase the amount of words that I use to describe their issue and then
agree with them a new way to summarise their issue.
The greater choice of words used in better grammatical structures, the greater the possibility. Behaviour changes, the foundation is established and the work can begin.
Just my personal preference.
In his article John explains how nominalisations impact us and he offers a way out of the trap.
I believe that Nominalisation is the most damaging aspect of all people’s stories. I describe it as the knock out punch that renders them unconscious.
I just had to ask John if I could post his article and he agreed.
Over to John:
THOSE NEW YEAR EVOLUTIONS
I WROTE MOST OF this a few years ago at this time and have decided to rewrite it, add a little here and there because of its popularity.
WHAT IS IT THAT has people “make” New Year Resolutions and then “break” them? We have a local pub here that has a “Break Your New Year’s Resolutions Early – Why Wait?” party on December 30 each year. It kind of adds something to the ritual.
THE WORD *RESOLUTION* itself is a nominalization, a verb formed into a noun. It comes from the word “resolve”, which means to solve, again!! And so many people get into a pattern of re-solving old problems and then not re-solving them because they then turn the process into an event, a static event. How about EVOLUTIONS?!! Evolving continuously, doing new things, get a new look, a new walk, a new talk, a new anything!!
INSTEAD OF MAKING “Resolutions”, how about setting up new directions in which you want to be going this coming year, both personally and professionally? Now is the time to invest in yourself! The future economic predictions are that those most skilled, most savvy, most knowledgeable, are to be in the lead! The smart ones are making investments now, even in themselves!
TAKE SOME GOALS, activities, behaviours that you want to be doing, and see yourself doing those in your future, just starting in the next few moments. If you’re going to put those pictures into your future, be sure they’re of behaviours – YOURS – that’s you doing them, dissociate so you can see yourself doing them, then associate so you’ll know what you’ll be seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, tasting. Then dissociate, see yourself doing them!! It’s in your language, too.
REMEMBER, IT’S ONE THING to have goals that are outside of yourself, like that red *Testosterosa*, but without the behaviours, you may not know how to go about getting one, or even earning the money to get one. Remember to keep YOUR goals behaviour-driven. That material thing is just the outcome of the outcome, it’s the reward for doing certain behaviours!!
And Have A Great 2013! and Beyond!
©2013 John La Valle
