In a Word (and more) NOT

I was just thinking about Facebook Posts that I have read, a phone call that I made and something else that I read, in the last 24 hours

We all throw caveats into what we say (or write)

literally throw! Just like ‘Throw Away’ lines.

These lines are like Fishing Lines. We throw the line out because we are fishing for something.  Dr Phil et al, would say we are seeking a Pay Off and I think maybe a Let off is probably more frequent and possibly more accurate.

The great thing about language is it’s impact!
At whatever level, all language is a declaration of intent and that language comes out of us at such high speed. Although it has structure and logic and reasoning, most of it has to come from the unconscious thinking because it is simply too fast to be processed consciously and delivered simultaneously. Its a skill and

all skills are unconscious

You don’t think about the skilful things you do, you just do them.
Ever driven to a destination and when you got there you don’t remember driving there?
You exercised your driving skill. You didn’t think about it.

BUT the great thing about the Caveat is its negativity, because

the unconscious cannot process negatives

That happens in your conscious thinking, not your unconscious thinking.

As an example, let’s review a typical greeting conversation:
“How are you?”
“I’m not too bad” –
there’s the Caveat.

The person uses badness as the measure just in case things go wrong. They declared a expectation that because things are (based on) bad then if things go bad its ok. Its a Let Off. They can’t be disappointed if things go wrong because they were almost expecting it.

What does the unconscious process?

Because it doesn’t process the negative ‘not’, it processes
“I’m not too bad”
That person just told themself that they are too bad

So why is this useful?

Because, if the unconscious cannot process negatives and all skills are unconscious then effective use of negatives can programme us positively!

Try these:
“How are you?”
I’m not too good” –
strange how saying that you are not too good, feels good.  Have you ever noticed that?

“How are you?”
I’m not too happy” –
makes you feel happy just saying that you’re not. Have you ever noticed that?

How are you?”
I’m not too wealthy” –
notice how rich that feels.

It is a ‘Pattern Interrupt’. It’s not in the normal pattern of conversation. It  interrupts it. The brain picks out ‘not’ and ‘too’ for attention but the conversation has moved on so the abnormal not and too  hang around in the conscious waiting to be  processed.

Unconsciously you hear “I’m too wealthy”. That is an unusual thing to say and has to be processed so it can be understood. You’ve just programmed yourself because

effective suggestions are skilfully delivered to the unconscious, unconsciously

To the other party you are too wealthy and that doesn’t make sense. What does too mean? That hangs around in their mind with an association between you and wealth, whilst they try to work it out.  Since they are unlikely to have the time to think about it long enough and there are more important things to think about, it will probably stick.

The word too is too general to be given a value and so the part that they do understand is left behind – I’m wealthy

To them You are wealthy because ultimately they won’t process the rest because it’s confusing and they haven’t got time.

So, how am I today?
I’m NOT having too much fun

How are you?

 

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One thought on “In a Word (and more) NOT

  1. Hi Arthur:
    I am more for the “Let off” than “Pay off”. I am definitely “having TOO MUCH fun” reading your great posts. I always say to my students: What if you change from “Not too bad!” to “Expecting the best!? How does it feel? And I get a smile in the face instead of the face of the guy at the end of your post. Two different messages right?
    As I posted in social media Every child diagnosed with ADD/ADHD grows as an adult with ADD/ADHD. I believe (and do it) that when I make a difference helping my student manage his own skills I get the smile instead of the confused mind in front of me and I feel my work was done.
    So let me share this with you: The child or adult with ADD/ADHD following a treatment letting him understand and manage the condition through defined techniques can improve performance

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    It´s all about as you said once showing up, supporting, networking and making a difference
    I am with you absolutely!!!!!!!
    CONGRATULATIONS FOR THE GREAT POST TODAY!!!!!!

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