About AyPee

A licensed Trainer and Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Business and Personal Coach , Trainer and strategic thinker from a Blue Chip Multinational background, who successfully pioneered simple solutions to resolve complex problems, optimised resources to reduce overheads and increased the bottom-line through creative, unconventional and often ‘Ground Breaking’ thinking. A visionary, who works with a blank sheet to create solutions, enrols people into new ways of thinking and creates communities to deliver results. Broad base of experience in Strategic Planning, Finance and Business Risk, I.T., Stock and Production Planning, Logistics, Customer Services, Human Resources, Merchandising and Retail

Spaced Out Unintended Arrogance?

I met up with a client yesterday. She was at the appointed spot ahead of time but the interesting thing was that I knew she was there five minutes before I arrived.  I just felt her presence.

As I exited Waterloo Station and headed  towards ‘The Southbank’ a conversation started in my head about people who are always late.

I remember watching a Dr Phil show where he was discussing the subject of  Continual I Like what yiu are doing with your hairLateness. One guy was talking about how he even gets up “10 minutes earlier to make sure that I am not late and I am still late!”
Dr Phil responded along the lines of “You are always late because you are arrogant”. I thought that interesting and I understand it but what occurred to me yesterday is that Fear may have the greater part to play in it.

Arrogance is the result of Fear. Maybe that is my assumption but I trust my gut so I know it is true.

I had a friend who asked me help her with her preparations for a significant court appearance. I was to meet her at a law practice at a given time and every occasion she was late – very late! AND there was always a justifiable reason. (But the law of averages tell you that is not possible)
Even when it came to the big day, she arrived  90 minutes late. Was that arrogance or was she confronted?

Clearly these are programmes that we run, we develop routines and habits to support how we manage time and commitments.

I have another friend who is always ahead of time. I like that. He, much as my client yesterday,  has gifted me with  time to spare.
Its also great because it is one less thing to be concerned about, by which I mean, one less thing to process and …

…. I love having space in my brain , I value it!

Brain Space

I don’t like having others take up my brain space, without my permission.
For me, having Brain Space is more space in which I can create and have great thoughts.

Thoughts are the real juice of life. They are the proof that we are alive. The source of our conscious reality. The source of pleasure and pain.

Byron Katie is one lady in particular who is a pleasure to watch whilst she thinks. You see it happen and you see the pleasure and it exudes from her and I get it!
That’s a gift!

So I guess compassion is the order of the day.
When people are continually late, they are probably fearful and may be avoiding or hiding it. They are probably less organised and that caused by lack of brain space
OR
they may be blatantly arrogant and that takes planning AND BRAIN SPACE

My friend lost her appeal, by the way. I guess that was lack of space.

Reality exists in time and space – How we use time and where we use it creates our reality be it Pleasurable or Painful.

Catcha! I’m off to think pleasurable thoughts, Just gotta get me some space.

BRING IT ON!

 

Images Southbank: http://www.southbankcentre.co.uk/ 
Astronaut:
http://mysteriousuniverse.org/
Dr Phil: Various

Build a Good Practice practice practice

I was recently asked “How do I Build a Good Practice?” by two new comers to coaching. I answered Practice, practice, practice and more practice and at every level.
In other words practice all the time until it becomes unconscious so that you just BE a practitioner and what you practice just occurs whenever and wherever it is needed. Whatever your practice!

I sign up to many discussion groups and forums and online communities related to my practices. But I seem to come across one particular problem: Many contributors desire to prove that they know their subject and maybe, even worse, try to sell something based on that.
I understand the desire to exchange ideas but the problem is that the activity of practice and the learnings from practising, need to be taking place directly with people. Either face to face or one to one by phone or VOIP, rather than indirectly via a keyboard or keypad.

Learn by practising Being a practitioner is not about knowing techniques. It is about when and where. Unconsciously use the right technique that is needed and more importantly, take that technique and modifying it to match the needs of your client. True practitioners do not need to think what to apply and when. They just know what to do and when to do it. What to do if what they are doing is not working. How to switch and what to switch to…. and there is the point.

That takes practice.

When I mentor practitioners. One particular question often arises. How much should I charge?

 iStock_000019459622XSmallPRACTICE Scrabble TilesHere is an example of a typical conversation:

Practitioner “I am thinking of doing a weight loss programme”

Mentor Great! How many people, what format are you using, where, etc…?

Practitioner Oh, it’s for 10 people and …….……

Mentor How much are you charging?

Practitioner Oh, I am not charging. I need the practice.

Mentor You are a practitioner, that’s your job. You are there to practice.
You are not practicing to become something, you should continually practice to continue as a practitioner. A valuable practitioner

 

Actually, I believe that this should go one stage further. You need to practice so that you Become a valuable Servant.

What you charge should be based on a combination of the value to the client and what the client can afford.
I go as far to ask my clients what they are going to pay me.  And, having described what I am going to do, I will ask “How valuable would that be to you?”

The question is deliberate. It gives me a clue as to how the client values themself. The answer indicates what type of work and the amount of work that I will need to do.

Many practitioners price themselves too cheaply because they want to make their services available to as many people as possible. This is admirable. We are here to make a difference, to make people’s lot better BUT this is misplaced. It should not be about what the practitioner is charging, rather a combination of the value to the client and what the client can afford.
It is about the client, not the practitioner, which means everybody pays an appropriate price and in some cases the price is nothing!

If you undercharge some people they will perceive that your practice isn’t worth much and they won’t engage. If you overcharge others they will not engage either.
If your desire is to make you service easily available, charging the right amount is important.

Do not serve too many clients at one time.
That’s right! Turn business down
You have to be fit to serve so conserving your energy is paramount.

If you wish to offer your services free then make money first from those that will pay you before you offer your services free of charge to those that cannot afford you
Only offer your services free of charge once you can afford to do so and always do your best work whether you are being paid or not.

Offering services free of charge to build up a reputation, rarely works. Practitioners can end up struggling and then can’t afford to market themselves. By all means offer samples of your work BUT….
No dough, no go!

If you need to practice something new you can offer free consultation via classified advertising sites like Gumtree.com and explain why you are asking for free clients. You can also advertise in the local press.

As far as I am concerned the purpose, whatever you practice, should be that
You are there to serve.


  • Practice all the time
  • Practice one to one
  • Learn by practising
  • Learn when and where
  • BE a practitioner.
  • Be valuable
  • Be a valuable servant
  • Ask “How valuable would that be to you?”
  • Charge for the value that the client expects
  • Turn business down
  • Improve people’s lot
  • Offer your services for free occasionally
  • Always do your best work!
  • No dough, no go!
  • Serve.

A Schizophrenic Way of Life?

In reaction to a Facebook posting, I was asked my view on “How one company is trying to buy up Mother Earth”. The link doesn’t appear to contain the same words – Go Figure
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OK, I am a big picture guy.

We are amidst a social revolution, clearly!
People are using Social Media and the Internet to affect change like never before and the results are being seen by the amount of people on the streets protesting throughout the world.

My friend said to me the other day that the Brits would be on the streets if it were not for Beer and Football and amusing as it was, I can see his reasoning and it’s a true generalisation.

‘Thems that have’ appear to be in a last ditch attempt to maintain control and the reactions are showing up all over the internet. Perceived injustices are showing up like never before! The velocity of communication has never been at the speed of light before available to so many people.

Perception is on high alert and emotional reaction the same whereas time taken to research is probably not being undertaken at a personal level, rather digital ‘hear-say’ is!
Isn’t that the same velocity working against itself?

Avaaz is part of the reaction of ordinary folk to maintain freedom (freedom is an illusion and actually always has been an illusion).
Brits have freedom to a point and believe that they are free because they are comfortable with their lot, when actually most are held in place by fears of losing something because they noticed they have already started losing stuff.
But the Brits probably have the highest level of freedom available in the world. Hence our massive immigrant population. People like the freedoms we have.

My personal belief:
Protestation doesn’t work as much as we think it does, community and negotiated agreements always delivers but without the protestation then issues are veiled from us.

There is a place and a time (reality) for all behaviour but it needs to be powerful not forceful.

Osho said:

osho910[1]“Everybody wants freedom as far as talking is concerned, but nobody really is free and nobody really wants to be free, because freedom brings responsibility. It does not come alone. And to be dependent is simple: the responsibility is not on you, the responsibility is on the person you are dependent on.

So people have made a schizophrenic way of life. They talk about truth, they talk about freedom, and they live in lies, they live in slaveries – slaveries of many kinds, because each slavery frees you from some responsibility. A man who really wants to be free has to accept immense responsibilities. He cannot dump his responsibilities on anybody else. Whatever he does, whatever he is, he is responsible.”

Humans have such a bad track record of self-abuse, like no other animal on this planet and the constant need to separate and use is bazaar. The concept of retribution is also bazaar.
Who are we fearful of? who are we controlling? who are we stealing from?,  who are we fighting? Who are we punishing? … Ourselves – That’s bazaar!

It is community and agreement (enrolment via conversation) that will change things, always has, always will and that’s the power of humanity.
Not forceful action or forceful opinion, rather great questions.

Social Media is a conversation. It needs to generate creativity and enrolment.

Perhaps I am Socratic but I believe Questions have more power than answers because it is creativity that drives humanity not fixing things – that is containment. It is not freedom.

#justsaying

“Freedom is everything and love is all the rest” ~ Dr. Richard Bandler and Owen Fitzpatrick

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Sources:

Pictures:
AVAAZ  http://www.facebook.com
Osho http://www.oshoradio.net
Owen Fitzpatrick and AyPee at NLP Masterclass

Content:
http://www.avaaz.org/en/monsanto_vs_mother_earth_loc/ and http://www.facebook.com

Turn on, tune in, and drop out

“My advice to people today is as follows: if you take the game of life seriously, if you take your nervous system seriously, if you take your sense organs seriously, if you take the energy process seriously, you must turn on, tune in, and drop out”

~ Timothy Leary

probably the most famous thing that Timothy Leary said.

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Timothy Francis Leary – born October 6th, 1920 died May 31st, 1996

Leary was an American psychologist who advocated the use of psychedelic drugs when they were both available and could be used legally. He conducted experiments at Harvard University in the 60’s together with Richard Alpert and I remember reading about his experiments in The Sunday Times supplement at the time

He believed  that the drugs had potential use in psychiatry and he developed the eight-circuit model of consciousness, which is presented  in his 1977 book Exo-Psychology.

Richard Nixon once described Leary as “the most dangerous man in America”
….. Hmm.. ……. Interesting observation   Smile

Alpert travelled to India in 1967 where he met Neem Karoli Baba, who gave him the name “Ram Dass”, meaning “servant of God”
Dass is now a considered contemporary spiritual teacher

 

Sources: Quote:  brainyquote.com Images Google Detail Wikipedia and nytimes.com

#StartRant

I was having a bit of rant on FB this morning and I thought B*** IT!
Yes why not?
Blog it!

I have the privilege of sharing what I think with the world in so many ways now and I own (not mine really, more generously given to me by WordPress) a blog.

I was taken by a picture of a child eating crumbs from the floor and so I decided to post it every day, this week and just ask a question each day.
The first publication included the question: “Why?”
Today’s question is “Invisible?”

Each day the responses have grown and each day there is more passion being expressed by those that have responded.

As the world occurs to me right now:
WE are way, way out of balance!

The divide between the ‘have’ and the ‘have nots’ has never been greater and a massive breakdown is going to occur so we can achieve a very much needed break-though.

#JustSaying


Arthur Partridge #StartRant
Yes the vulnerable take the brunt and the most vulnerable (those that can do the least about it) take most of the brunt.
tempThere is enough resource in this world to stop this but it seems that humans have to HOLD ONTO resources for their own survival. Even though sharing resources grows resources.
So survival requires sharing but that depends on just how vulnerable you are.
Meaning, in the current model, if you have nothing to trade, then you are nothing and shouldn’t be here
Great model, ugh?
Be proud Humanity. You have come a long way
#Rantover


Am I wrong?

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Behave yourselves
(Its all a question of imagination)

iStock_000009165312_ExtraSmallBehave yourselves and do what you are told!
As a child you may had heard that at school or home or both.

I am finding more and more that I am using the ‘BeSayDoHave’ model on clients, and friends, who are stopped or confused about where they are in their lives.
That seems to be the common theme in life right now OR it just occurs to me that way.

There is a certain directionless in people’s lives.
I think because they are buying into the recession thing and the pointlessness they believe as a result.

Actually, never before have we had so much opportunity to imagine and create!

But we are certainly in transition.
Social Media is causing and assisting that big time.
We are amidst a Social Revolution which is bringing all sorts of authority under scrutiny and conspirisists are having an open run at most every known and unknown event of the past zillion years.

Perhaps it is that governments and corporations are disempowered as a result and the feeling of lost-ness and leaderless-ness is showing up

The ‘Be Say Do Have’ Model

The model follows the state of unconscious into unconsciousness and back out again.

BEing requires no consciousness – one just is just feeling or just being in a state for no reason.
When we get to SAY something about that we become conscious of our state which will probably cause us to
DO something (consciously or unconsciously)
thus causing us to HAVE something. (again consciously or unconsciously).

States of Concern

Most states of concern are so practiced (repeated time and time again) they run automatically and become unconsciously executed.

But let’s look more closely at the model:

As a child we were always imagining BEing something and telling (SAYing) others about  it and then DOing things and HAVing experiences before moving on to the next BeSayDoHave cycle = Playing.

If we didn’t HAVE the result we imagined we probably threw a tantrum or got upset until it was forgotten and then we started the whole BeSayDoHave cycle off again.

Going then into the next stage of our development (??) of entering education, we also enter an environment where the chances are that we need to be controlled.
What we BE and SAY become casualties because there is a need for us to DO and HAVE things so that we comply with the rules.

You can’t have 30 Kids BEing and SAYing things all at one time. Chaos will follow and control will be lost.

In point of fact Self Control was being installed in us and not all of us can do that.

The Short Circuit and Getting Stuck

What I come across are people who have gone through the system and arrived in a future where unconsciously they are under great (self-)pressure to DO something to change how they are (BE) feeling and the short cycle of DoHave is constantly being run without achieving the desired result.

They believe that to HAVE change that they need to DO and haven’t yet found out what it is. They need to do something or are having trouble deciding something.
They have forgotten to BE and SAY what it is that has come to them unconsciously.

In the DoHave cycle there is very little room for unconscious imagination and people constantly come up short.

Choice, Not Decisions

Adding BeSay back into the equation increases scope and depth and most importantly choice!
Things become unstuck
and the pressing need for decision goes away.

 

GET OUT THERE AND BE ANYTHING YOUR IMAGINATION REQUIRES and
if it doesn’t work out throw a tantrum in your head and start a new cycle.

 

Absurd!

but true?

“Those that make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities”

~ Voltaire

 

François-Marie Arouet, known by his nom de plume Voltaire, was a French Enlightenment writer, historian and philosopher famous for his wit, his attacks on the established Catholic Church, and his … Wikipedia

Born: November 21, 1694, Paris, France
Died: May 30, 1778, Paris, France
Education: Lycée Louis-le-Grand (1704–1711)
Buried: Panthéon, Paris, France

Sources http://rickrozoff.wordpress.com/2011/06/14/voltaire-war/ and Google

Successful Men

imageA man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do

~ Bob Dylan

Born Robert Allen Zimmerman May 24, 1941, Duluth, Minnesota, United States
Images care of Google.com

I Died…and it’s all good

Conversation on Facebook with my friend Jacket Backman.

It is amazing what you find out about people through Social Networking

206847_10150157262617607_7389010_nArthur Partridge seems I’ll be meeting that goal date!! Book design complete, uploading files now. And for all of you curious to hear more here’s the copy from the back of the book:

“8 years ago I died. I was home when it happened, recovering from a fairly standard medical procedure, one that had gone very wrong.
From the onset of the massive bleeding, to making my own 911 call, I share my horrifying and bloody wait for the paramedics to arrive and what it was like leaving my young sons behind while I made the trip to the hospital. Learn how I lost my battle with consciousness and emerged into the most outstanding, magnificently, unconditionally loving experience of my life.

Journey with me as I share with you a place far beyond your imagination. I take you each step of the way all the while so acutely aware of my connection with our source. I share with you some of the insights and understanding I gained about our human condition and our purpose beyond.

And finally I describe my experience of being given the option of whether I will return to my body or remain in the afterlife, because even in dying it seems, we still have choices to make…”

I’m doing a book launch August 2nd in Malta and getting all the pieces together to make it happen on time has been character building… I’m close, very, very close.

What stories can you tell of great people you meet on line?