“Understanding doesn’t produce change. Change produces understanding.”
~ Dr. Richard Bandler
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Betsy Otter Thompson very kindly responded to my asking for a blog post by sending me an article called “Animal Crackers”.
This is the first time that this article has been published outside of her own website!
An author of six books from a background in radio stations, acting, television and motion pictures, who in addition to writing The Mirror Theory, the first book in her trilogy on the life of Jesus, has written four other books, published and distributed through her own company, Ascension Publishing.
her books were the answer to her prayers
Although these books are currently out of print, Betsy hopes to eventually reprint.
Betsy’s work has always gravitated toward the media. A native Philadelphian with a B.F.A. from the University of Pennsylvania, Betsy worked as an account executive for WFIL radio in Philadelphia, and from there went to radio stations WPEN and WFLN. After that, she became a commercial print model and acted in television commercials in New York and Philadelphia. For seventeen years, she worked in Los Angeles at the motion picture and television company Castle Rock Entertainment as the Assistant to the Chairman and CEO. In August ’99, she followed her boss to Warner Bros. as he took a new position there as President and COO, and became his Executive Assistant. She is now writing full time. Betsy’s writing began unexpectedly while going through an especially difficult time in her life. She believes that her books were the answer to her prayers.
When I was a child, Nabisco had a product called Animal Crackers. And for all I know, they still do. I loved how these cookies tasted and looked. I loved the packaging, too; the box alone was worthy of being a gift by itself. Each animal had characteristics that stirred my imagination and, as I reached into the box that looked like a circus trailer, I never knew what creative image my fingers would select. To me, it didn’t matter if the cookies were broken or chipped; I was hooked on the total package.
I believe that, as humans, we are equally diverse and appealing. So if we delight in the uniqueness of lions, tigers, and elephants, why can’t we enjoy the uniqueness of each other? Aren’t we individual in colour, shape, and sound like the animals are unique? And don’t we live in habitats that suit our personal growth? No one says to an elephant, why aren’t you more like a possum; and no one says to a rhinoceros, why don’t you sound like a bird? Why can’t we take the same delight in our different characteristics?
The animals have hearts that beat, bodies that function, and brains that react to stimuli. We do, too. When animals are attacked, they do what they must to survive. Why are we surprised when humans do the same?
The world is shrinking. Intercontinental communications, transportation systems, and escalating populations are making isolation impossible. How can harmony exist if we can’t accept each other? Throughout history, lasting peace has never come from making others wrong, calling religions evil, or shifting the blame. Why do we still think it will? How can peace be lived in the big picture of Earth if it isn’t lived in the small picture of each and every experience?
When my life is less than the peaceful world I seek, I ask myself the following: Am I living peacefully or hatefully? Am I taking responsibility or am I blaming? Am I looking for the best in others or the worst? Am I tolerant or am I bigoted? That’s where I find my answers for living the peace I lack.
Animals come wrapped in a package that suits their purpose here on Earth. Why wouldn’t we come packaged for the purposes we have here?
I believe that healing begins with me; not with this or that leader, or this or that country. I believe that leaders reflect the acting out of the masses in whatever country they rule. I also believe that, as we love and accept each other for exactly who we are, our leaders will mirror that oneness.
Betsy Otter Thompson
7800 Linden Road
Wyndmoor, PA 19308
This article comes from dumblittleman.com.
Needless to say I have read “How to Win Friends & Influence People”. It is an highly innovative book, considering it was published in 1937 and it has sold over 15 million copies!
Dale Carnegie was a famous lecturer and writer as well as the developer of very popular courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, interpersonal skills, and public speaking.
Dale wrote the first book I ever read (that I wasn’t required to read). The book was titled “How to Win Friends & Influence People.” I read the book when I was about 11 years old; this book was an incredible bestseller, and an amazing read.
Although born in poverty on a farm in Missouri, Dale Carnegie managed to become quite successful.
Dale authored popular books such as “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living,” and “Lincoln the Unknown,” as well as several other books.
change other people’s behaviour towards you by
changing your reaction towards them
One of my favourite principles that he taught was that it’s possible to change other people’s behaviour towards you by changing your reaction towards them. Give that some deep thought , apply it, and it alone can change your life. But there’s more to consider.
With that, let’s look at seven success lessons from Dale Carnegie.
7 Must Read Success Lessons from Dale Carnegie
Inaction Breeds Fear
- “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
Get busy today! If you have a good idea, put it to the test. Inaction breeds further inaction, and action breeds further action. One thing is sure: if you’re going to succeed, you’re going to have to take massive action, so get busy today!
Make Good Use of Your Time
- “Instead of worrying about what people say of you; why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.”
Spending time thinking about how people perceive you is a vast waste of valuable time. Concentrate your time in making a difference, and people will surely admire you.
Failure is the Stepping Stone to Success
- “Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.”
Often those with the greatest defeats also have the greatest victories. You must use discouragement and failure as tools to move you from the pit to the palace.
We Determine Our Happiness
- “Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions; it is governed by our mental attitude.”
Happiness is a decision; it is not based on what’s going on around us. It’s based solely on what’s going on inside of us. Our happiness is based on the thoughts that we choose to give our attention to; the thoughts that we choose to harbour. Dale Carnegie said, “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.”
Remember That Everything You Do Sends a Message
- “There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.”
Everything you do sends a message. The way you dress sends a message, the way you comb your hair sends a message.
Determine the message you want to send to the world, and then package yourself to ensure that message is being sent. Send a message of success and the world will receive it.
Do What You Enjoy
- “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”
If you want to succeed, don’t do it for the money. Money is not a sufficient enough motivation to pull you over the many hurdles that are requisite for you to achieve success. If you want to succeed, spend your time doing what you enjoy. This way, when you succeed, you will enjoy your success.
Take a Chance
- “The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare.”
You have to take chances! You have to sometimes risk being embarrassed or risk failure in order to succeed.
Success requires everything that you are; you have to put it all out there. Dare to be different, dare to succeed. Carnegie said, “We all have possibilities we don’t know about. We can do things we don’t even dream we can do.” But if you never dare, you will never know your potential.
Thank you for reading and be sure to pass this article along!
Written on 8/2/2010 by Mr. Self Development who is a motivational author that offers a practical guide to success and wealth; support him by visiting his blog at mrselfdevelopment.com or by subscribing to his feed.
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