I was just thinking about Facebook Posts that I have read, a phone call that I made and something else that I read, in the last 24 hours
We all throw caveats into what we say (or write)
These lines are like Fishing Lines. We throw the line out because we are fishing for something. Dr Phil et al, would say we are seeking a Pay Off and I think maybe a Let off is probably more frequent and possibly more accurate.
The great thing about language is it’s impact!
At whatever level, all language is a declaration of intent and that language comes out of us at such high speed. Although it has structure and logic and reasoning, most of it has to come from the unconscious thinking because it is simply too fast to be processed consciously and delivered simultaneously. Its a skill and
all skills are unconscious
You don’t think about the skilful things you do, you just do them.
Ever driven to a destination and when you got there you don’t remember driving there?
You exercised your driving skill. You didn’t think about it.
BUT the great thing about the Caveat is its negativity, because
the unconscious cannot process negatives
That happens in your conscious thinking, not your unconscious thinking.
As an example, let’s review a typical greeting conversation:
“How are you?”
“I’m not too bad” – there’s the Caveat.
The person uses badness as the measure just in case things go wrong. They declared a expectation that because things are (based on) bad then if things go bad its ok. Its a Let Off. They can’t be disappointed if things go wrong because they were almost expecting it.
What does the unconscious process?
Because it doesn’t process the negative ‘not’, it processes
“I’m not too bad”
That person just told themself that they are too bad
So why is this useful?
Because, if the unconscious cannot process negatives and all skills are unconscious then effective use of negatives can programme us positively!
“How are you?”
“I’m not too good” – strange how saying that you are not too good, feels good. Have you ever noticed that?
“How are you?”
“I’m not too happy” – makes you feel happy just saying that you’re not. Have you ever noticed that?
How are you?”
“I’m not too wealthy” – notice how rich that feels.
It is a ‘Pattern Interrupt’. It’s not in the normal pattern of conversation. It interrupts it. The brain picks out ‘not’ and ‘too’ for attention but the conversation has moved on so the abnormal not and too hang around in the conscious waiting to be processed.
Unconsciously you hear “I’m too wealthy”. That is an unusual thing to say and has to be processed so it can be understood. You’ve just programmed yourself because
effective suggestions are skilfully delivered to the unconscious, unconsciously
To the other party you are too wealthy and that doesn’t make sense. What does too mean? That hangs around in their mind with an association between you and wealth, whilst they try to work it out. Since they are unlikely to have the time to think about it long enough and there are more important things to think about, it will probably stick.
The word too is too general to be given a value and so the part that they do understand is left behind – I’m wealthy
To them You are wealthy because ultimately they won’t process the rest because it’s confusing and they haven’t got time.
So, how am I today?
I’m NOT having too much fun
How are you?