Remember! Two, Four, Six, Eight: everybody Confabulate

Somebody posts a ‘Do you remember when xyz’ item on Facebook and I begin to experience joy.
I go for a beer with my old (familiar and old – LOL) and we natter and we become very enthusiastic about ‘the time when….’
Good old feelings arise.

DSC00060Actually most of what we remember wasn’t quite like that.

We have confabulated elements of our memories. We shrunk them down, bits fell off and we stowed them away in our unconsciousness – be there such a place. Just like a zipped down file on a computer storage device. When we pulled the memories back out again the original events weren’t like that but we got to feel something that resembled a recollection – a re COLLECTION – of feelings

They are just feelings and repeatedly running the memories will initially intensify the joy (or whatever your emotion is) and then the intensity will transform into a different set of feelings or will dissipate.

In point of fact most bad memories got bad through practice – BAD PRACTICE!
and
most good memories got good through practice – GOOD PRACTICE!
It’s all Practice, practice, practice – whatever you practice, you will get skilled at

DSC00909I may be misquoting him but Richard Bandler has said

“The best thing about the past is that it is over”.

Thinking about it that way and I have to agree.
It is how we experience what’s left behind that is important and what is left behind is not the actual event but a printed memory; an imprint. That’s emotional.

There may be physical scarring or damage but the emotional stuff is running the show.

PTSD – Post-traumatic stress disorder, no matter the event is the reaction to memories, even if it (the feelings) are suppressed. There are things that can be done using eye movement to change the emotional impact. I use Integral Eye Movement Therapy and I’ve watched the inexplicable occur as I’ve used it. I was so fascinated by it that trained to become a trainer in it!

For me Bad memories tend to lose their impact and I can keep reducing the intensity by repeating a bad memory in my mind and reducing the emotional impact deliberately. That’s not denial. It’s Adjustment! Just like using knobs and dials on a control panel.
Remember, whatever you resist will persist. Its change that is required not denial.

My control panel, is my mind:

      I can change the pictures that I see in my mind
      Push images away, shrink them down, and increase the size of images from good memories of the same event.
      Change the where I see them to different positions
      Turn sounds up and down.
      Change the sounds of people’s voices – their tonality, the words they use. Make them sound like Mickey Mouse
      I can change the intensity of the feeling – damp it down, crank it up.
      I can change the words that I use to describe the event.

There really isn’t much that I can’t do in my mind, ask any good Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.

It really is like the old gag:
“Its mind over matter – if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”

There is also changing the enquiry you are having about the past:
If you don’t like the answer you get, ask a better question!

And I can move my eyes in differing patterns while I remember the event and experience it changing.

What limits our experience is how we use our mind and our body. The ‘use’ is our spirit – how we inspire ourselves.
It’s Mind, Body, Spirit, Practice and Communication

#JustSaying


According to Wikipedia:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confabulation

“Confabulation (verb: confabulate) is a memory disturbance, defined as the production of fabricated, distorted or misinterpreted memories about oneself or the world, without the conscious intention to deceive.[1] Confabulation is distinguished from lying as there is no intent to deceive and the person is unaware the information is false …..

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Am I Grateful for Appreciation?

I have read a lot of posts about Gratitude, particularly in the context of attracting desires into our lives or as most would say by “The Law of Attraction”.

tempWhen I was I my early twenties, I was attacked by a drug crazed idiot who went onto kick the legs away from my then fiancé and punch my mother in the face.
I cannot feel grateful for that BUT I do appreciate what that caused.
It caused very positive changes in the people involved. It could have been the entire opposite.

What then of gratitude? Can one be truly grateful for everything? Or can one be grateful for having the opportunity to experience everything?
Probably the latter.

Is one attracting things or is one attracting the experience of those things?
After all experience is no more than memory and emotions can be felt through memory or imagination – both create memories and both create experience.

“Create your own adventure because experience is all that there is” ⒸAyPee

Our Divine Purpose

10947224_891737967550016_8760290585667881796_n[1]WHAT DO YOU THINK?
The bigger mind has less interest in the business of other people for sure!
The smallest minds totally focus on what others are doing and saying (Gossip),
What people think and share (Create) is much more interesting to me because I get that we are all CREATORS and that is our purpose,

So people live their purpose or flounder. It has very little to do with how intelligent they are. It is the choice to be responsible for creating life or not
‪#‎JustSaying‬

image from http://themindunleashed.org/

Content Free Reactive Velocity

Hedadlines iStock_000014413599SmallInteresting day, on Facebook yesterday on the subject of Gluten. It all got quite emotional.
I am not sure why Gluten was the flavour of the day (excuse pun) but it sure invoked some passionate responses.

Got me thinking about what I am ‘prepared’ to read and how I ‘choose’ to react.

Seems to me that there appears to be a stampede culture where, myself included, where people react to headlines not content and we have so been conditioned by media and advertising and politics.

My conclusion is that it is more important for me to slow down and choose if I want to read the content and only ever react when I have read the content.

It was a good day for learning.

What do you think?

Enjoy ’em, peeps. that’s all you got!

AyPee038There appears a need for people to wake up, expressed virtually everyday on Social Media sites – Is it not that they should get present to their trance?

We are always in trance – it is all a question of who runs the trance? My submissive side or my controlling side,
To be in balance I have to allow both, plus all the other sides of me to be and to function.
There is no one way unless the one way is the holistic way of many parts coming together.
There is nothing to learn but all to experience so that I get and I give – we all transact our way through life. I happen to believe that should be fun for the most part.
It all lives through my ability to respond – i.e. its all my response-ability

My beliefs are my beliefs are my trance
Your beliefs are your beliefs are your trance,  …… Enjoy ’em, peeps. that’s all we got!

#Justsayin #AyPeeRamblings

Nothing makes a woman more beautiful that the belief that she is beautiful

Sphia Loren
“Nothing makes a woman more beautiful that the belief that she is beautiful.”

~ Sophia Loren.

I posted this quote in Facebook, which got a number of reactions.
I was struck by the passion of the response and I got that the responses were beliefs that Peeps were expressing.

I dropped into my normal chiding style of responding but then I got into my flow and discovered what I really though makes Women beautiful to me. I wrote:

I guess if you set the standard of measurement of beauty as being skin and bone then other measurement standards may appear to be Politically Correct. (Personally, I experience the majority of politically structured people as complete Jack Asses)

If what I see pleases my eye it can be beautiful
If what I see and then feel pleases my emotional state it can be beautiful If what I see and then hear pleases my listening it can be beautiful

I have a tendency to the Visual as my strong suit but even what I smell and taste can be beautiful and most certainly the combination of the aforementioned things and the spirit that holds those things in the way they are presented can be beautiful

I know many incredibly beautiful women who do not fit many of the modern day procreation selection material or sexual stimulation standards yet who possess such beauty that I am stimulated because it is their ontological presentation that I experience as beauty.

I do not experience that as being at the centre of that woman. I experience that as a single quality or multiple qualities that they present.

Perhaps that what Sophia was alluding to when she described it as belief.

I don’t know. I am not Sophia Loren

The picture selection and following information comes  from Google Search:
Sophia Loren is an Italian actress. Loren is widely recognized as Italy’s most renowned and honoured actress. Wikipedia
Born: September 20, 1934, Rome, Italy
Height: 1.74 m
Full name: Sofia Villani Scicolone Ponti
Spouse: Carlo Ponti (m. 1966-2007)
Children: Edoardo Ponti, Carlo Ponti

Movies
Two Women 1960
Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow 1963
Marriage Italian Style 1964
Nine 2009
Houseboat 1958