Behave yourselves
(Its all a question of imagination)

iStock_000009165312_ExtraSmallBehave yourselves and do what you are told!
As a child you may had heard that at school or home or both.

I am finding more and more that I am using the ‘BeSayDoHave’ model on clients, and friends, who are stopped or confused about where they are in their lives.
That seems to be the common theme in life right now OR it just occurs to me that way.

There is a certain directionless in people’s lives.
I think because they are buying into the recession thing and the pointlessness they believe as a result.

Actually, never before have we had so much opportunity to imagine and create!

But we are certainly in transition.
Social Media is causing and assisting that big time.
We are amidst a Social Revolution which is bringing all sorts of authority under scrutiny and conspirisists are having an open run at most every known and unknown event of the past zillion years.

Perhaps it is that governments and corporations are disempowered as a result and the feeling of lost-ness and leaderless-ness is showing up

The ‘Be Say Do Have’ Model

The model follows the state of unconscious into unconsciousness and back out again.

BEing requires no consciousness – one just is just feeling or just being in a state for no reason.
When we get to SAY something about that we become conscious of our state which will probably cause us to
DO something (consciously or unconsciously)
thus causing us to HAVE something. (again consciously or unconsciously).

States of Concern

Most states of concern are so practiced (repeated time and time again) they run automatically and become unconsciously executed.

But let’s look more closely at the model:

As a child we were always imagining BEing something and telling (SAYing) others about  it and then DOing things and HAVing experiences before moving on to the next BeSayDoHave cycle = Playing.

If we didn’t HAVE the result we imagined we probably threw a tantrum or got upset until it was forgotten and then we started the whole BeSayDoHave cycle off again.

Going then into the next stage of our development (??) of entering education, we also enter an environment where the chances are that we need to be controlled.
What we BE and SAY become casualties because there is a need for us to DO and HAVE things so that we comply with the rules.

You can’t have 30 Kids BEing and SAYing things all at one time. Chaos will follow and control will be lost.

In point of fact Self Control was being installed in us and not all of us can do that.

The Short Circuit and Getting Stuck

What I come across are people who have gone through the system and arrived in a future where unconsciously they are under great (self-)pressure to DO something to change how they are (BE) feeling and the short cycle of DoHave is constantly being run without achieving the desired result.

They believe that to HAVE change that they need to DO and haven’t yet found out what it is. They need to do something or are having trouble deciding something.
They have forgotten to BE and SAY what it is that has come to them unconsciously.

In the DoHave cycle there is very little room for unconscious imagination and people constantly come up short.

Choice, Not Decisions

Adding BeSay back into the equation increases scope and depth and most importantly choice!
Things become unstuck
and the pressing need for decision goes away.


if it doesn’t work out throw a tantrum in your head and start a new cycle.



I Died…and it’s all good

Conversation on Facebook with my friend Jacket Backman.

It is amazing what you find out about people through Social Networking

206847_10150157262617607_7389010_nArthur Partridge seems I’ll be meeting that goal date!! Book design complete, uploading files now. And for all of you curious to hear more here’s the copy from the back of the book:

“8 years ago I died. I was home when it happened, recovering from a fairly standard medical procedure, one that had gone very wrong.
From the onset of the massive bleeding, to making my own 911 call, I share my horrifying and bloody wait for the paramedics to arrive and what it was like leaving my young sons behind while I made the trip to the hospital. Learn how I lost my battle with consciousness and emerged into the most outstanding, magnificently, unconditionally loving experience of my life.

Journey with me as I share with you a place far beyond your imagination. I take you each step of the way all the while so acutely aware of my connection with our source. I share with you some of the insights and understanding I gained about our human condition and our purpose beyond.

And finally I describe my experience of being given the option of whether I will return to my body or remain in the afterlife, because even in dying it seems, we still have choices to make…”

I’m doing a book launch August 2nd in Malta and getting all the pieces together to make it happen on time has been character building… I’m close, very, very close.

What stories can you tell of great people you meet on line?