About AyPee

A licensed Trainer and Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Business and Personal Coach , Trainer and strategic thinker from a Blue Chip Multinational background, who successfully pioneered simple solutions to resolve complex problems, optimised resources to reduce overheads and increased the bottom-line through creative, unconventional and often ‘Ground Breaking’ thinking. A visionary, who works with a blank sheet to create solutions, enrols people into new ways of thinking and creates communities to deliver results. Broad base of experience in Strategic Planning, Finance and Business Risk, I.T., Stock and Production Planning, Logistics, Customer Services, Human Resources, Merchandising and Retail

Remember! Two, Four, Six, Eight: everybody Confabulate

Somebody posts a ‘Do you remember when xyz’ item on Facebook and I begin to experience joy.
I go for a beer with my old (familiar and old – LOL) and we natter and we become very enthusiastic about ‘the time when….’
Good old feelings arise.

DSC00060Actually most of what we remember wasn’t quite like that.

We have confabulated elements of our memories. We shrunk them down, bits fell off and we stowed them away in our unconsciousness – be there such a place. Just like a zipped down file on a computer storage device. When we pulled the memories back out again the original events weren’t like that but we got to feel something that resembled a recollection – a re COLLECTION – of feelings

They are just feelings and repeatedly running the memories will initially intensify the joy (or whatever your emotion is) and then the intensity will transform into a different set of feelings or will dissipate.

In point of fact most bad memories got bad through practice – BAD PRACTICE!
most good memories got good through practice – GOOD PRACTICE!
It’s all Practice, practice, practice – whatever you practice, you will get skilled at

DSC00909I may be misquoting him but Richard Bandler has said

“The best thing about the past is that it is over”.

Thinking about it that way and I have to agree.
It is how we experience what’s left behind that is important and what is left behind is not the actual event but a printed memory; an imprint. That’s emotional.

There may be physical scarring or damage but the emotional stuff is running the show.

PTSD – Post-traumatic stress disorder, no matter the event is the reaction to memories, even if it (the feelings) are suppressed. There are things that can be done using eye movement to change the emotional impact. I use Integral Eye Movement Therapy and I’ve watched the inexplicable occur as I’ve used it. I was so fascinated by it that trained to become a trainer in it!

For me Bad memories tend to lose their impact and I can keep reducing the intensity by repeating a bad memory in my mind and reducing the emotional impact deliberately. That’s not denial. It’s Adjustment! Just like using knobs and dials on a control panel.
Remember, whatever you resist will persist. Its change that is required not denial.

My control panel, is my mind:

      I can change the pictures that I see in my mind
      Push images away, shrink them down, and increase the size of images from good memories of the same event.
      Change the where I see them to different positions
      Turn sounds up and down.
      Change the sounds of people’s voices – their tonality, the words they use. Make them sound like Mickey Mouse
      I can change the intensity of the feeling – damp it down, crank it up.
      I can change the words that I use to describe the event.

There really isn’t much that I can’t do in my mind, ask any good Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.

It really is like the old gag:
“Its mind over matter – if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”

There is also changing the enquiry you are having about the past:
If you don’t like the answer you get, ask a better question!

And I can move my eyes in differing patterns while I remember the event and experience it changing.

What limits our experience is how we use our mind and our body. The ‘use’ is our spirit – how we inspire ourselves.
It’s Mind, Body, Spirit, Practice and Communication


According to Wikipedia:

“Confabulation (verb: confabulate) is a memory disturbance, defined as the production of fabricated, distorted or misinterpreted memories about oneself or the world, without the conscious intention to deceive.[1] Confabulation is distinguished from lying as there is no intent to deceive and the person is unaware the information is false …..

Am I Grateful for Appreciation?

I have read a lot of posts about Gratitude, particularly in the context of attracting desires into our lives or as most would say by “The Law of Attraction”.

tempWhen I was I my early twenties, I was attacked by a drug crazed idiot who went onto kick the legs away from my then fiancé and punch my mother in the face.
I cannot feel grateful for that BUT I do appreciate what that caused.
It caused very positive changes in the people involved. It could have been the entire opposite.

What then of gratitude? Can one be truly grateful for everything? Or can one be grateful for having the opportunity to experience everything?
Probably the latter.

Is one attracting things or is one attracting the experience of those things?
After all experience is no more than memory and emotions can be felt through memory or imagination – both create memories and both create experience.

“Create your own adventure because experience is all that there is” ⒸAyPee


Being curious is an attitude that keeps you present, aware when possibility and opportunity arise. Once you create a rule for your life (“That’s how it is”) , you have fixed a stake in your timeline that has you fixed in the past. Always review and be curious

Life exists within Stories.

Life exists in Stories“Life exists within Stories.
That’s all we have left from our experiences and we use them to teach and to gain rapport.
It’s the glue which holds us together in community and culture.
They aren’t true.  They’re just agreements ”


Our Divine Purpose

10947224_891737967550016_8760290585667881796_n[1]WHAT DO YOU THINK?
The bigger mind has less interest in the business of other people for sure!
The smallest minds totally focus on what others are doing and saying (Gossip),
What people think and share (Create) is much more interesting to me because I get that we are all CREATORS and that is our purpose,

So people live their purpose or flounder. It has very little to do with how intelligent they are. It is the choice to be responsible for creating life or not

image from http://themindunleashed.org/